F*ck No
{18 minutes}
Fuck No
Remembering how to say Stop!
This is a practice that is about honoring it when some part of ourselves says, "Fuck no." This kind of a practice, which is a form of boundary setting, is particularly important for people who have a tendency to respond to threat by accomodating, appeasing, or fawning. Often these defensive responses, which are adaptive learned behaviors, create biological confusion around boundaries. This framework is part of a larger exploration about the relationship between appeasing and various health conditions including complex chronic illness, MCAS, etc.
Related Practices:
See the framework Coming out of Appease, and see Not Consuming Other People's Waste Energy. F*ck No is a deepening and extension of concepts from Learn to Set Clear Boundaries. Regarding setting strong boundaries, see Coming out of Fight. See Boxing. For further exploration of emotions related to boundary-setting, see The Importance of Disgust and Working with Betrayal and Other Emotions that You Don't Want to Feel. Often, learning boundary setting brings us directly into the territory of grief (which is also part of coming out of shutdown). See Allow Yourself to Grieve. See Grief Tending. See Apprentice to Grief, see Descent. For more on coming out of dorsal (shutdown) states, see the framework Coming out of Shutdown. In terms of the water analogy, see Getting our Nervous Systems back to Normal, and Core Neurobiological Self. See 3 Steps: Assess, Down-Regulate, Connect. See Tracking. See The Science of Safety. See Turning on the Connection System. See Pete Jackson's work, including Building Peace and Dismantling the Construct of War. See Tiokasin Ghosthorse's work including Deprogramming the Colonial Mind, and Exiting the Language of Domination. See Skeena Rathor's work, including Activism from the Heart of Nature.Photography: Licensed from Pexels.com, used with permission.